I have been married for almost 20 years, and I remember a time in the beginning when the two becoming one – soul mates – was a bit rocky.
One day my hubby and I were in sharp disagreement about something, and he asked me to take care of the dishes without even volunteering to help.
I was very displeased with how my husband had just spoken to me; his tone was unkind. I was standing at the sink doing dished and fuming big time.
I remember telling God/Source Energy/The Universe, that he needed to change with my husband’s attitude. LOL, I said it was a great passion and out loud. All of a sudden, this thought rushed into my head, “No, I need to change you.”
I literally had a physical reaction, stepped back from the sink, and protested. I told God, but you saw and heard how he just spoke to me, what do you mean I need to change? And, again, those words rushed back into my mind – “No, I need to change you.”
I was not a happy camper, and I most certainly didn’t understand, but I knew in my heart God was much smarter than me, and Source Energy had the answers. My job was to get away from the ego/pride and seek higher-self, which is connected to the universe/God and find my answer.
Over time I came to learn I had to be responsible for what was happening around me. I played a part in what is happening around me, either directly or indirectly, through my thoughts. Thoughts carry power-energy, they create.
When I was able to wrap my mind around the whole concept of being responsible for whatever was happening around me and live it out, things changed, I changed, and from those changes over time, my husband also changed and when he changed I improved even more.
The hard part was choosing to move into a place of love and Humility, letting go of ego/pride, and being willing to look at me, the good, the bad, and the ugly. It was not always a comfortable journey, but I can tell you it was worth it.
Once I was able to establish this new way of living long enough, it became a habit. Now when the old ways try to creep in from time to time, it is so much easier to identify what is happening and defuse it.
Have a beautiful day!